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Learn Hustle Grow
Episode 167

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Navigating financial issues in a relationship can be tough, especially when partners come from different financial backgrounds. Rob and Rayshawn's journey showcases their evolution from struggling with debt and financial missteps, such as misusing the GI Bill and student loans, to achieving financial independence. They emphasize the importance of open communication about finances, the value of premarital counseling, and joint financial planning. Their story highlights actionable insights on managing money as a couple, utilizing travel rewards, and even planning for their children's financial futures. The couple learned to combine their finances and implement a modified version of the Dave Ramsey plan while maintaining some financial independence through allowances, which fostered trust and collaboration.

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Episode Summary: In this episode of ChooseFI, hosts Jonathan Mendonsa and Brad Barrett interview Rob and Rayshawn, who share their inspiring journey of overcoming financial hardships through teamwork and strategic financial planning. They discuss their unique backgrounds, how they navigated financial challenges together, the importance of communication in relationships, and various strategies for achieving financial independence, including real estate investments and travel rewards.


Key Takeaways

  • Introduction to Rob and Rayshawn's Background

    • Both grew up poor and faced financial hardships.
    • Joined the military early on as a means to create a better life.
  • Combining Finances

    • Importance of open communication about money.
    • They engaged in premarital counseling, which was crucial in aligning their financial goals.
    • Developed a plan to manage finances based on their incomes and differing perspectives on money.
  • Travel Rewards and Investments

    • Focused on using travel rewards as a financial strategy.
    • Discussed their real estate investments and the mindset shift that enabled them to pursue financial independence.
  • Advice for the Future

    • Emphasized the significance of careful financial planning and education.
    • Shared valuable advice for listeners to manage their finances as couples.

Timestamp Highlights

  • Financial backgrounds of Rob and Rayshawn.
  • Importance of premarital counseling in aligning financial goals.
  • Discussion on travel rewards as a financial strategy.
  • Life hack: Buying used cars.
  • Advice for younger selves regarding financial decisions.

Actionable Takeaways

  • Have open discussions about finances as a couple to align your goals.
  • Seek financial education resources to empower your decision-making.
  • Consider utilizing travel rewards to enhance your financial strategy.

Key Quotes

  • "Open communication about money is key."
  • "Traveling the world became our goal."
  • "Buying used cars: a favorite life hack!"
  • "Our goal is to help other people achieve their goals through real estate."

FAQs

  • What steps did Rob and Rayshawn take to manage their finances together?
    They engaged in discussions about money, participated in premarital counseling, and developed a combined finances plan.

  • How did they overcome previous financial baggage?
    They worked together towards common financial goals through ongoing education and planning.

  • What financial strategies did they implement?
    Budgeting, travel rewards, investments, and maintaining open communication about finances.


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Discussion Questions

  • What strategies can couples adopt to align their financial goals?
  • How does travel influence personal and financial growth?
  • What role does financial education play in achieving independence?

To Connect with Rob and Rayshawn:

  • Subscribe to their YouTube channel: Learn, Hustle, Grow.
  • Follow them on Instagram: @LearnHustleGrow.
  • Visit their website: learnhustlegrow.com.

Podcast Description: Join us as we dive into the financial journey of Rob and Rayshawn, who share their unique perspectives on overcoming financial burdens and achieving independence through teamwork, communication, and strategic planning.

Unlocking Financial Independence As a Couple: Key Insights from Rob and Rayshawn

Building wealth as a couple requires a concerted effort, strong communication, and a shared vision. By examining the experiences of Rob and Rayshawn, who successfully navigated their financial challenges, we can uncover valuable strategies to help you and your partner on the path to financial independence.

Start with Open Communication About Finances

The foundation of a successful financial partnership is open and honest communication. Rob and Rayshawn emphasized the importance of discussing money early in their relationship. By acknowledging their financial backgrounds and the baggage that came with them, they were able to set their shared goals.

  • Action Item: Set aside time to openly discuss your financial backgrounds and current situations with your partner. Understanding each other’s financial habits and fears will allow you to create a supportive space where both partners feel valued and heard.

Invest in Premarital Counseling

Seeking premarital counseling provided Rob and Rayshawn with the necessary tools to address difficult topics like finances. This process aided them in identifying common goals and individual values, ultimately bringing them closer together.

  • Recommendation: Couples should consider premarital counseling, especially if financial discussions tend to lead to conflict. A counselor can facilitate difficult conversations and help couples develop strategies to manage their finances together harmoniously.

Create a Shared Financial Plan

Combining finances may be daunting for couples, especially those with different incomes and spending habits. Rob and Rayshawn began with separate accounts and devised a system based on percentages of their incomes that would go to shared expenses.

  • Tip: Draft a shared financial plan that categorizes spending, savings, and investments. Clear definitions on who is responsible for what can minimize stress and misunderstandings.

Embrace Financial Education

Rob and Rayshawn recognized the necessity of ongoing financial education. They committed to learning about budgeting, travel rewards, and investments together, significantly improving their financial literacy.

  • Actionable Takeaway: Make a conscious effort to learn about financial management together. Consider subscribing to financial literacy courses, attending workshops, or even reading financial books side by side.

Implement a Travel Rewards Strategy

Travel rewards can serve as a powerful tool in a couple’s financial strategy. Rob and Rayshawn utilized travel rewards not only as a way to save money but also as a means to enhance their travel experiences without jeopardizing their budget.

  • Action Item: Start collecting travel rewards through credit cards or loyalty programs. Research the best options that fit your lifestyle and travel preferences, ensuring you maximize these benefits.

Consider Real Estate Investments

Real estate has been a significant aspect of Rob and Rayshawn’s wealth-building journey. They began with a single home and transitioned it into a rental, demonstrating the potential for real estate as a formidable wealth-building tool.

  • Recommendation: If you're interested in real estate, educate yourselves about the market in your area, and seek out manageable real estate investments. Start small, perhaps with rental properties that can generate passive income.

Empower Each Other’s Growth

Financial independence often thrives in an environment of mutual support and encouragement. As Rob and Rayshawn grew in their respective careers, they encouraged each other to pursue ambitious goals.

  • Action Item: Establish a routine where you celebrate each other's financial wins and encourage each other to take calculated risks in personal development and career paths.

Manage Debt Wisely

Rob and Rayshawn shared their personal struggles with debt, highlighting their effort to minimize it and learn from past mistakes. They took proactive steps to manage and pay down debt effectively.

  • Strategy: Develop a debt repayment plan that targets high-interest debts first. Consistently monitor your debt levels and adjust your budget accordingly to ensure you remain on track.

Cultivate an Emergency Fund

Having a robust emergency fund is essential for financial stability. Rob and Rayshawn emphasized the importance of saving enough to cover six months of living expenses.

  • Action Item: Build your emergency fund incrementally. Start with a small goal and gradually increase it. This financial cushion will provide peace of mind during unforeseen events.

Plan for the Future Together

As they approached financial independence, Rob and Rayshawn began to dream about traveling the world. Their experiences motivated them to formulate long-term plans that prioritized both financial security and lifestyle aspirations.

  • Recommendation: Invest time in creating both short-term and long-term financial goals as a couple. Regularly revisit these goals to make necessary adjustments as your lives evolve.

Conclusion

The journey to financial independence as a couple is filled with challenges, but with open communication, education, and shared goals, it is entirely achievable. Take inspiration from Rob and Rayshawn, and start implementing these strategies today to empower your financial future together. By investing in your financial literacy and each other, you can build a solid foundation for wealth that lasts for generations.

Rob and Reshawn from Learn Hustle Grow discuss combining their finances and building a real estate portfolio.

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Money Mindsets

Rob and Reshawn came from similar backgrounds with teenage single mothers. However, they developed very different opinions about money.

Rob's Journey

Rob grew up poor and found his way out of a bad situation through the military.

He joined the Marines as soon as he graduated high school. In fact, he signed up for a delayed entry program. That allowed him to sign up for the military as a junior and attend basic training right after graduation.

Although he earned a good income in the military, he spent everything he earned at 18.

After the military, Rob decided that he wanted to pursue a career in IT. However, he had difficulty landing a job in the field. So, he went to college with the help of the GI Bill. However, it didn't help much as he spent all the GI money and also took out student loans.

He enjoyed living a nice lifestyle in San Diego but it led to an accumulation of debt.

Reshawn's Journey

Reshawn also grew up with limited resources and saw college as her way out.

She joined the Army Reserves to help pay for college and stayed in for six years while attending school. Even with the help of the Reserves, she still had to take out around $11,000 in student loans which took ten years to pay off.

The major expense that Reshawn had to contend with after college was childcare.

When she graduated from college, she was seven months pregnant with her first son. For a 22-year-old, childcare was a major expense to undertake. While she was pregnant, it was difficult for her to land a job at the job fairs on campus. It was difficult to get interviewers to call her back.

She decided to go home to her family and started interviewing for jobs when her son was six weeks old. By the time he was four months old, she had landed a job.

For single moms, Reshawn shared her advice:

Still move forward with your life as though, you know, you were doing what you planned to do. Becoming a mom is a big thing. And I think when it happens when you’re younger you’re so resilient. So you have this incredible opportunity to just keep moving forward because your mindset. Or at least my mindset at the time, was I have to get a job, I have to take care of my son. So there wasn’t any hesitation on my part to simply continue to move forward with the process of finding a job that would take care of us and so, you know, that we could live a better life.

Eventually, Reshawn decided to move from Chicago to Texas because it offered a more affordable place to raise her son.

Building A Life Together

Rob and Reshawn met in Texas after moving there separately for a lower cost of living. In the beginning, they were on completely different pages financially. He did not mind being in debt because he enjoyed making new purchases and enjoying the things that money could buy. She had a strong desire to stay debt-free.

In order to get on the same page, they attended premarital counseling through their church and the counselor asked them difficult questions that helped them start to think about their money situation.

As they started to discuss finances, they created a convoluted percentage-based plan to fund their lifestyle together. Essentially, they would both contribute a percentage of their income to a shared account to cover household bills and the rest of their funds would remain separate.

However, that plan did not work for long. With very different incomes, it is difficult for that system to work fairly.

The couple continued to go to church and think more about the idea of marriage. Their separate marriage finances did not feel like two becoming one. Within a few months, they decided that the percentage system looked more like a roommate setup than a married couple. So, they continued working towards the idea of combining their finances.

Eventually, Reshawn agreed to combine their finances if they agreed to take some financial literacy classes together.

So what I said was, “I would be willing to join our finances if you would be willing to, you know, go through some financial education.

Rob agreed and they started working on the Dave Ramsey baby steps together.

The Modified Baby Steps

When Reshawn and Rob started the baby steps, they decided to make a few changes.

First, they focused on what they were each allowed to spend. With that in mind, they set up separate spending accounts for an allowance.

Both Rob and Reshawn could spend their 'allowance' on anything they wanted. The rest of their expenses came out of the 'company' account. Anything over $100 that came out of the household account needed to be discussed. The allowances helped them understand their spending patterns better along the way.

Throughout the baby steps, they continued to contribute to their retirement accounts. Finally, they still used credit cards to earn points but paid off their balance in full each month.

Real Estate

Once they had gotten more comfortable with their joint household finances, they considered getting into real estate.

The first house they lived in as a married couple was originally Reshawn's. It was a smaller home in a nice neighborhood that they renovated to make it comfortable for both of them.

Rob started listening to BiggerPockets and convinced Reshawn to consider a single investment property.

However, once they started looking for an investment property they found that what they wanted wasn't in their budget for a rental house. Instead, they ended up finding their dream home. It was a beautiful home with an open floor plan that they found on Rob's birthday.

So, they decided to turn their first home into a rental and move into this larger space. With low-interest rates, they were able to refinance their first home into a 15-year mortgage. Even with the refinance, they were able to completely cover the mortgage of their first home with the rental income.

Overall, it was a successful first taste of real estate and positive cashflow. Rob decided that he wanted to hit a goal of owning 15 doors because that would replace Reshawn's income.

Building A Real Estate Portfolio

Over the next few years, they took their six-figure income and used it to put down 20% on several properties. Generally, they would drain their emergency savings to purchase a home. However, they relied on quarterly bonuses to quickly replenish their emergency funds.

After buying four rental properties, they used a 1031 strategy to double their doors from four to eight. Plus, they maintained their primary residence. Each of these properties had a 15-year mortgage.

Their real estate business is completely self-contained now. The properties have a modest cashflow that Reshawn and Rob do not touch unless they need to make repairs on one of the properties. When the mortgages are paid down after 15 years, they will start to see more cash flow to cover their living expenses.

Paying Down Their Home

Although they have several mortgages for their rental properties, they decided to pay down the mortgage of their primary residence. The catalyst was the fact that their children have both moved out recently. Plus, Reshawn's stressful job was starting to take a toll on her health.

They owed around $200,000 on their $300,000 home. So they decided to pay down the balance with a combination of a cash out refinance on a rental property mortgage and selling some of their investments.

The goal was to create some more freedom for the next chapter of their lives.

Related: Reaching FI With Real Estate With Sunny Burns

Living Expenses

Today, it only costs them around $35,000 to live each year. After paying off their mortgage, they dramatically cut their living expenses. When they hit the 15-year point in their rental mortgages, they will start to see a large influx of monthly cash flow. The freedom of this financial set up has allowed them to both quit their jobs.

Currently, they are traveling the world. Eventually, they will return home and Rob intends to try his hand at selling real estate on a part-time basis.

Really what we’d like to do is see more people get into real estate as an opportunity to build wealth. So our goal is to help other people to achieve their goals through real estate.

Working In Sales

A large part of their journey was Reshawn's ability to earn a large income. Although sales was a high-stress job, she was able to earn a great income as a single mom.

You see things on television where give you all these negative perceptions of what salespeople are. When you work a corporate sales job, a salesperson’s responsibility,  their whole job is to educate. You are educating your client on the products and services that could help them to solve a business problem.

Generally, as a salesperson, you are the last to be fired in a slow economy. Plus, you have the opportunity to leverage your income because you can decide how hard you will work.

If you are interested in sales, then Reshawn would recommend working for a large company at first. Most large companies have training programs to help you start your career. A few good fields to consider include technology, pharmaceutical, and educational.

When you apply for a sales job, try to set yourself apart.

Do your homework on the company. Spend the time to understand exactly what the company’s goals are, what it is that they do, you know, where they’re doing well. If you can, absolutely try out their product.

You will likely not encounter an upper limit in terms of earning potential. You could earn anywhere from $50,000 to $500,000. It just depends on the company and the quality of work you are able to put in.

How To Connect

You can connect with Rob and Reshawn on their YouTube channel, Learn Hustle Grow. They also have a website, Learn Hustle Grow. Or you can follow them on Instagram @learnhustlegrow.

The Hot Seat

What is your favorite blog, podcast, or book of all time?

What is an inflection point in your life that was especially memorable or meaningful?

For Reshawn, it was joining their finances and making the decision to plan for their future as a team. For Rob, it was learning how much you don't really need through traveling.

What is your favorite life hack?

For Reshawn, it is buying used cars via email. For Rob, it is playing Grand Theft Auto because you can build anything you want to without spending a dime.

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What is the biggest financial mistake you've made?

For Rob, it was spending his GI Bill funds and still taking on student loans. For Reshawn, it was signing up for random credit cards on campus with low limits but then maxing them out.

What advice would you give your younger self?

For Reshawn, it would be to stay in the Amry Reserve for 20 years to land the pension. For Rob, it would be to buy real estate as soon as possible.

Bonus! What purchase have you made over the past 12 months that has brought the most value to your life?

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