Little FI-ers: Is Education Everything? Planning And Saving For Our Kids
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“Education is the most powerful weapon which you can use to change the world.” – Nelson Mandela
The Education Dilemma
Mr. MoneyPenny and I have two young boys and our oldest is starting Senior Kindergarten this year. Mini MoneyPenny is probably typical in many ways--super energetic and full of joy, but he’s also a bit of an anxious kid--very hard on himself and turning thoughts over and over in his head. So after 15 months at home with him I went back to work and we put him in a small beautiful daycare that was peaceful, cozy, and nurturing. He flourished there and we breathed a big sigh of relief that we didn’t totally mess up our first major decision for him. But now he’s four--time to hit the big leagues of ‘big kid school.’ I’m panicking. I couldn't exactly put my finger what was bothering me so much about my little guy going to 'real' school. After some navel gazing I realized that it’s because I know just how important education is. It was likely one of the major contributors to Mr. MoneyPenny and I going from lower-middle class immigrant kids to professionals with good jobs. It’s certainly not everything, but being able to move ‘up’ economically in one generation on the shoulders of our education certainly colors our perspective as to how important it can be. (Sidebar: apparently this whole concept is also known as intergenerational economic mobility and it’s a real thing--check out the box). So what does this mean in terms of school for our boys in these early years? And what does it mean for any kind of an education fund for post-secondary opportunities?Looking At Primary Schools With A FI Lense
In our city there are lots of good schools--public, private and independent. A knee jerk reaction could be to find the school with the best standardized test scores, university entrance rates or some other measure. And then, regardless of price, sign Mini MoneyPenny up. But since we are trying to reach financial independence (FI), we are hoping that perhaps there is another way that we could look at this. Let’s go back to basics--what’s education really for anyways? There are many perspectives on this and different approaches might be right for different families. For us, we are hoping that a school education:- Nurtures the joy of learning something new;
- Fosters curiosity and creativity;
- Gently teaches ‘grit’ and perseverance to achieve a goal;
- Allows for the forming and navigating of social relationships; AND
- Positions for financial stability/success.
Not Everything Is About The Money
After many discussions, lots of research and even some financial modelling and projections, we realized that sometimes decisions like these are more than just about the money. Earlier I listed out some of the goals that we had around education that weren’t financial in nature. What we have come to realize is:- Sometimes directly comparing schools or education choices is not possible. This is because one cannot look at these options independently--it matters what your child is like and how she/he might interact with this option. For example, our public school may have some issues or concerns that could threaten several of our objectives for our spirited little guy. These issues are obviously not a big deal for many kids who I’m sure are doing just fine there, but for Mini MoneyPenny the consequences could be significant.
- It’s all about choices. I outlined in a previous post that despite our age and life-stage that we still have tenants living in our house. Their rent more than covers the added cost of choosing an independent or (some) private schools.
- Living without regrets. As parents we know that we are bound to make our fair share of mistakes. For us, we just want to follow our hearts and minds and know that we did and gave the very best that we could for our boys. We asked ourselves, “if money was no object, what would be the best fit for Mini MoneyPenny?”
Fast Fast Forward Beyond High School
There certainly is some debate as to whether parents should be saving for their kids potential post-secondary education and if so, how much. Not wanting to get too much into this discussion I can say that for Mr. MoneyPenny and I, we do know that we want to save something for the boys. For us it basically comes down to trying to provide options for them--whether it be for university, college, trade school or something else. We also want to be able to support them if they decide to go the entrepreneurial route, which would not be part of the scope of traditional education plans/funds. So what is this going to look like for us? First thing that we wanted to do was get a ballpark idea of how much a standard four-year degree might cost. Where we live it looks something like this:- Tuition: assuming inflation rate of 4.5% ($7500/yr today)
- Room and Board: assuming 2% inflation rate ($10K/yr today)
Take Action!
- If you have kids, perhaps take some time to reflect and discuss with your significant other what the objectives are for their education
- Make a plan to match your finances with these objectives
- Do some research to see if there are any potential grants, subsidies or other mechanisms that might help in your savings plan. Do some research on the right investment vehicles too.
- Start early! As we all know, time is everything when it comes to saving
- Don’t beat yourself up. We are all trying to do our best for our families--sometimes this means prioritizing and making hard choices. An education fund is a luxury--remember, your kids just want you to be present and love them!