I appreciate this idea of a brief audit and matrix, particularly for those building wealth. I would like to share my experience from the viewpoint of a wife whose husband has tracked every expense in Quicken for the entirety of our 20 year relationship. Closely tracking created both an opportunity to discuss our individual values and visions, but it also created a lot of friction. Especially after we hit FI two years ago, the dynamic has not been healthy, I would argue, for either of us. Even though we are staying within our annual budget, as the primary spender, I have felt shamed and judged when "reporting" expenses, for example when he doesn't recognize an expense and asks "how should I categorize X ?" We both acknowledge his strong drive to track every expense stems from his childhood, and it is only in this last year or so that I have developed stronger boundaries and pushed back when feeling judged. Very recently I have challenged him to stop tracking individual purchases and pushed instead for monthly check-ins to discuss where our overall spending is in relation to our annual budget. My argument is that our annual budget was established at FI (adjusted for inflation), and as long as we hit that target each year, the individual tracking is no longer useful. And I think he would feel less panic and concern if he focused more on the big annual picture. He seems open to the idea and is letting it simmer. Anyway, just my view on perhaps a consequence of tracking too closely for too long for some couples.

In our household in Vancouver, Canada (VHCOL), it's just me and my partner. Last year, according to YNAB, we spent (in Canadian dollars):

$8,167.06 on groceries (about $3.50/person/meal) This is actually really good for where we live. We meal plan every week, cook mostly vegetarian with meat/fish maybe once every two weeks. We buy good quality groceries from our local greengrocer, butcher, fishmonger and baker, but buy other things from our local bargain supermarket and in bulk from Costco. We have a pantry full of dried beans and some good go-to daal, curry and salad recipes. We also use the Budget Bytes website for recipes and meal planning - I heard about that from a guest on the ChooseFI podcast a long time ago!

$4,221.43 on eating out (about $80/week) Considering that here, lunch out will cost you $20+, this is a pretty amazing average. The key is that by default, we avoid wasting money on dining out just for convenience. For example, if we are going to a sports game straight from work, instead of buying something at the stadium, we bring something from home to eat before we leave work. That right there has saved us at least $60. Having that be your default position means it's easier for you to just prep for that, as you don't need to discuss what to do every time. It also means that we have more money to spend on intentional, higher end dining out, which we love to do.

$2,698.71 on alcohol (about $52/week) Given that a bottle of wine here costs at least $25 and a pint of beer in a bar can easily be $15. This isn't too bad. It also includes wine we bought from wineries on various road trips too, so pretty good really! Over the last few years, I have cut down on alcohol a lot, keeping my consumption to two drinks per sitting and rarely buying very expensive stadium beers. That helps keep this cost down a bit.

$542.27 on coffee shops (about $10/week) This is about right, given that we have a regular weekly coffee social after parkrun.

$901.25 on date night (about $17/week) This is something we started doing last year, to be more intentional about spending time together. It usually pays for a donut, ice cream, lunch or coffee treat out just for the two of us.

Conclusion Overall, we try to be very intentional about how we spend on food. We love eating out and cooking good food, so we don't scrimp on quality, but we try to be laser focused on using our funds optimally, rather than wasting it on convenience food due to lack of planning.

At next Monday's Atlanta meet-up we'll be discussing the Expense Audit episode and sharing expense tracking solutions and what people have learned so far from their experience. Hopefully it will kickstart those that haven't started to get in gear as well! We'll share how it goes.

As someone who really enjoys tracking my expenses, I do it really at a really granular level and love to see how different expenses change year to year. The spreadsheet I have made allows me to see where our family spent more money as time passes and how different factors can effect it (i.e. weather affecting natural gas prices for how much heat or inflation on grocery spending).

Hi- I 'm a 66 year old retired scientist living just outside of Boston, I have been listing to the podcast since episode 10 thanks for the years of podcasts! I wanted to touch on a way to address budgeting for hidden leaks. I use my credit cards for the vast majority of my spending and what can not be put on credit cards (mortgage, some utilities, college tuition for my kids, etc) is paid directly from my checking account. Becasue I have found that it seems impossible to categorize every little thing I spend on using traditional tracking/audit methods, to figure out what I spend/year and how much I was/am really going to need in retirement, I simply add up all my credit card spending for the year then add in the things that are deducted from my checking account. This way I capture 100% of my spending. Of course, out of curiosity, I do keep track of specific monthly spending on utilities, groceries and other basics, and I try to track frivolous spending by monitoring my credit card spending, but I find that using total credit card plus auto deductions truly tells me what I really do spend in a year and comprehensively includes the stuff not accounted for in my tracking. I have been doing this for 4 years and find that my yearly spending is pretty consistent.

An example is that my yearly audit of all the regular things (houseing, utilities, travel, taxes, etc) shows that I spend 63K a yearK, but when I add in uncategorized credit card spending (includes any clothing, hardware store, things like bedding, curtains, a new pot or set of wine glasses or a rug, or anything like that, as well as restaurants ( I don't eat out enough to categorize separately), travel and everythig else I don't want to put the effort in to categorize, my yearly total is 84K. I realize that 20k of random spending is a lot, but it also covers a lot,, and since I am fat FI, I am at a stage of life where I am not interested in really cutting back (already optimized!), I just want to keep general track.

Thanks again for all the hard work you have put into creating this great community!

You guys mentioned in the episode that if you use a tool like YNAB then expense tracking is easy - as I was listening to the episode (before you got to that part) I literally pulled up YNAB and filtered out everything except my food and looked at the 3 month, 6 month, and 12 month totals. Took me 15 seconds. It seriously is a massive game changer if you use budgeting software like this. Hot take, but I think literally everyone should be using some form of budgeting software that automatically tracks spending.

My husband and I both enjoy meal planning and feel like we do a good job at it. Here is some insight into our budget and planning methods.

Background:

• We consider ourselves a family of 4 (we are a blended family of 5; 3 of us live here full-time, and two children are here 50% of the time, so we count them as one full-time person).
• We eat mostly vegetarian, but also include fish about once a month.
• We shop at Aldi, Costco, and Woodmans (a larger grocery chain in Wisconsin)
• We shop Aldi and Costco first, and then Woodmans for more unique specialty items.
• We rarely eat out when at home, and eating out during vacations is counted as "travel" not "grocery" in our budget
• Located in mid-sized city (65-70k people) in Wisconsin

Spend:

• 2025 Spend: $ 13,943.90 (includes all grocery, eating out locally, and alcohol)
• We estimate about $1000 of that to be alcohol.
• Per Person: without separating out alcohol, that equates to $3.18/person/meal, and with reducing by $1000 to factor out the alcohol, we are at $2.96/person/meal.

Meal Planning:

• Husband and I alternate meal planning every other week. Meal planning can be exhausting, mentally taxing, and monotonous when you are the only one doing it week after week. We've found that doing every other week gives us both a needed break and space to think about new ideas and recipes we want to try.
• When meal planning, we check our shared Google Calendar first to determine which days require "quick" meals due to kids' sports or other commitments, or which days the other spouse or kids can help prepare the meal because of other obligations. This helps to determine what type of meal to make.
• We keep a recipe book, which is a 3-ring binder with sleeves for printed out recipes, on hand and use that for the majority of our meals. This started empty, and as the family tried new recipes, we added the ones we liked to the recipe book. Now we have over 100 tried and true recipes to pull from. We both like exploring new recipes online, but when we lack the capacity to meal plan, it's also nice to just grab the book and pull out 7 favorites.
• The person who plans the meals also does that week's grocery shopping, which is also a nice task to share.

I realize not every couple will be on board with this plan, but we've really found it to work well for us, especially as a blended family. We have my husband's kids every other week, so he typically does the meal planning on those weeks, and I do it on the opposite weeks. This was something that came about after we moved in together as a way to share the workload. We of course help each other with prepping/cooking, and the kids help out as well, but it's really nice to have one "main chef" of the week and alternatively, to be "just a sous chef as needed" on alternative weeks.

I’m looking forward to the meal planning episode! I’ve recently started batch cooking to help our budget and our busy weeknights. I asked ChatGPT to plan me a batch cooking menu for the week and really enjoyed the meals/ease of cooking. Will be doing more of this!

Great episode today, thank you! I absolutely love Tiller for tracking my income and expenses. The thing I love best about it is that my information is automatically uploaded into my personal Tiller Google sheets - it is not held by a third party platform. Also, I'm familiar with Google Sheets, so it's pretty intuitive. Excel is the other option. Spending a few minutes Saturday mornings reviewing and updating my Tiller Sheets has become a much-enjoyed ritual because it shows me that I'm in control of my money and I can easily identify and minimize leaks. 😊

Highly recommend using Copilot app for this. It’s about $90/year, however, the ease of use and the data provided is incredible. It auto imports all credit card transactions and auto categorizes them, though you can change a category once or make a rule as needed. Can see how much we spent on food total as well as broken down by grocery stores and restaurants. For cars- total as well as broken down by gas, insurance, maintenance/repairs, state registration etc. can see the daily transactions, monthly by total and by category, ytd in each category, subcategories, total etc. You can also set a budget for each category and there is visibility if you are over/under - great info to decide is your budget is realistic or if the spend makes sense. Overall simplifies the task, easy to use, and instantaneous data at your fingertips in myriad views.

SO excited for the meal planning episode! I'm super passionate about this and actually just left part of my own process in the life hacks section a couple days before 586 dropped so this is so timely. I've been constantly refining my meal planning/grocery shopping process for the last couple of years and can't wait to hear more ideas to incorporate!

Looking forward to the food budget episode! We meal plan, don't eat red meat, never throw food away and for the two of us still average about $1050/mo for groceries. My goal is to get this down to $800 going into early retirement in May. If anyone has any tips, please let me know!

Great episode. For 2 of us in Woodinville, WA we budget $500 a month for groceries and $600 a month for eating out. We rarely hit either limit. We eat at home about 90% of the time.