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There's Water In The Cup
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Episode Guide

Episode Summary:

Health issues within families can provide unexpected insights into personal finance management and the importance of financial intimacy. With significant medical bills arising from unexpected expenses, conversations about budgeting and spending priorities become critical. This episode illustrates how improving credit scores can lead to better opportunities in securing travel rewards, urging listeners to start building their credit history through manageable credit cards. Additionally, the discussion covers the concept of financial intimacy\u2014suggesting that open communication about finances can foster stronger partnerships. Strategies for budgeting effectively through weekly meetings and maintaining a balance between spending needs and saving goals are emphasized, alongside valuable insights from experts on how to build trust and introduce financial discussions within relationships.

Episode Timestamps

ChooseFI Podcast Episode Show Notes

Episode Summary: In this episode, Brad Barrett and Jonathan Mendonsa discuss the financial implications of health issues, strategies for improving credit scores for travel rewards, and the importance of financial intimacy within relationships. Brad shares his family’s experiences with medical expenses, emphasizing the need for preparation and organization in handling such unexpected costs. The episode also delves into actionable advice for couples aiming to improve their financial communication and collaboration.

Key Topics Discussed:

  1. Health Challenges and Financial Implications

    • Personal anecdotes about health issues leading to unexpected medical bills.
    • Importance of being financially prepared for healthcare-related costs.
  2. Understanding Health Savings Accounts (HSA)

    • The significance of organizing medical expenses for future reimbursements.
    • Strategies for keeping track of medical invoices.
  3. Building Credit Scores for Travel Rewards

    • Tips for individuals with lower credit scores to improve their credit history.
    • Discussion on how responsible credit card use can boost credit scores.
  4. The Importance of Financial Intimacy

    • How open communication about finances strengthens relationships.
    • Encouraging budget meetings between partners to foster teamwork.
  5. Planning Regular Budget Meetings

    • Best practices for conducting productive financial discussions.
    • Tips for addressing differences in spending habits within a relationship.

Actionable Takeaways:

  • Organize your medical receipts for future reimbursements to ease financial stress.
  • Start building your credit by responsibly using a credit card and paying the balance in full.
  • Hold regular budget meetings with your partner to foster financial intimacy.

Key Quotes:

  • "Finding silver linings can motivate action, like organizing medical expenses."
  • "Building credit starts with responsible card use; pay on time to improve your score."
  • "Financial discussions rooted in trust and openness strengthen relationships."

Timestamps:

  • Importance of being financially prepared during health crises.
  • Organizing medical invoices for HSAs.
  • Steps to improve credit through responsible card usage.
  • Strategies for enhancing financial intimacy in relationships.

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Discussion Questions:

  • How can sharing financial responsibilities improve a relationship?
  • What strategies can help improve a low credit score?
  • How should families navigate unexpected medical expenses?

Action Items:

  • Organize your health care receipts and set up a medical expense tracking system.
  • Begin using a credit card to build your score responsibly.
  • Schedule a regular budget meeting with your partner.

Podcast Description:

ChooseFI focuses on financial independence, sharing insights on budgeting, health expenses, credit improvement, and enhancing financial intimacy in relationships.

Podcast Intro: You're listening to ChooseFI. The blueprint for financial independence lives here. If you're looking to unlock the secrets to financial independence and early retirement, you're in the right place. Stay tuned and join a community of like-minded people who are getting off the Instagram and taking control of their lives in the pursuit of financial independence. ChooseFI, your home for financial independence online.

Podcast Extro: You've been listening to ChooseFI Podcast, where we help middle-class America build wealth one life hack at a time.

Navigating Financial Preparedness and Intimacy

In the journey to financial independence, understanding the importance of financial preparedness, especially regarding health-related expenses, and fostering financial intimacy in relationships is paramount. Here's how you can successfully navigate these areas based on insights from recent discussions in the ChooseFI podcast.

Health Challenges and Their Financial Implications

Health issues often come unexpectedly, leading to significant financial consequences. To prepare yourself effectively for such challenges, consider the following recommendations:

  1. Organize Medical Receipts: Create a system to track your medical expenses. Scan all medical invoices and keep them in a dedicated folder on cloud storage (like Dropbox or Google Drive) for future reference. This practice can ease the financial stress associated with medical bills and facilitate smooth reimbursements from Health Savings Accounts (HSAs) when necessary.

  2. Establish a Health Savings Account (HSA): An HSA is a tax-advantaged savings account designed for medical expenses. Contributions to this account can help you manage unexpected healthcare expenses while offering tax benefits. Ensure that you keep detailed records of all eligible medical expenses for future withdrawal.

  3. Be Financially Prepared: It’s essential to weather financial storms due to health issues. Being financially prepared means having an emergency fund and adequate health insurance coverage to protect against high out-of-pocket costs.

Understanding and Improving Your Credit Score

A good credit score opens up opportunities for better financial tools, such as travel rewards and premium credit cards. If you’re looking to improve your credit score, follow these guidelines:

  1. Start Using a Credit Card Responsibly: If you’re new to credit or have had challenges in the past, start with a credit card suited for good credit (around 650-700). Consider entry-level cards like Chase Freedom Unlimited or Capital One Quicksilver, which can help you begin building your credit history.

  2. Pay On Time: The most critical aspect of improving your credit score is to make timely payments. Always pay your bills on time, aiming to pay off the full balance each month to avoid interest and increase your score gradually.

  3. Monitor Your Credit Utilization: Keep your credit utilization ratio low (preferably under 30%) to positively impact your credit score. This means not using more than 30% of your available credit at any time.

Fostering Financial Intimacy in Relationships

Financial intimacy is vital for a healthy relationship, especially when discussing joint financial decisions. Here are actionable steps to improve financial communication and teamwork with your partner:

  1. Schedule Regular Budget Meetings: Create a culture of transparency by holding weekly or bi-weekly meetings to discuss your financial situation. This fosters openness and ensures both partners are informed about expenses, savings, and goals. Discuss expenditures and adjust your budget as necessary.

  2. Approach Conversations with Curiosity: When discussing finances, frame your questions to encourage dialogue. Avoid defensive inquiries; instead of asking, “Why did you spend so much?” try saying, “I noticed our grocery bill was high this month. Can we talk about it?” This change in tone can lead to a more productive conversation.

  3. Celebrate Progress Together: Acknowledge achievements in your financial journey—big or small. Celebrating milestones can reinforce teamwork and strengthen your bond as a couple.

  4. Understand Each Other’s Financial Histories: People’s attitudes toward money often stem from their upbringing. Discuss your financial backgrounds and any emotional baggage you might carry, promoting empathy and understanding within your relationship.

Practical Tips for Everyday Money Management

  • Invest in Healthier Foods: When discussing grocery bills, evaluate the necessity of healthy food choices without compromising your budget. Prioritize quality, understanding that investing in good food is beneficial in the long run.

  • Engage Kids in Financial Education: As you foster financial intimacy, include your children in discussions about money management. Teaching them about budgeting and saving can instill healthy financial habits early on.

Conclusion

Embracing financial independence involves preparing for the unexpected, understanding credit, and nurturing relationships through financial discussions. By implementing these strategies, you can create a solid foundation for both your personal finances and your partnerships. Remember, financial independence is a journey best traveled with teamwork and transparency, so foster an environment of open communication and shared goals.

Join Brad and Jonathan to discuss credit building, financial intimacy, and travel rewards.

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Family Life

Both Brad and Jonathan had difficult weeks due to some medical issues in their families. Thankfully, everyone is on the mend. But Brad is now waiting for a large hospital bill in the mail.

That’s why we pursue FI, when catastrophic issues like this come up, we can weather the storm.

After this healthcare scare, Brad has taken action to scan all of his healthcare receipts. Now, these receipts will await future HSA reimbursement.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KBHjE9EPkj8

Travel Rewards And Building Credit

Jonathan got a message from a friend about where to start their travel rewards journey if they are starting without a credit score at all.

ChooseFI is about financial literacy, right, and a major aspect of being financially literate and financially powerful is having a significant credit score that you can leverage.

If You Have Excellent Credit

If you have excellent credit and want to start earning travel rewards, the  Chase Sapphire Preferred Card and the Capital One Venture Rewards Credit Card are great places to start.

If You Have Good Credit

Having less than excellent credit doesn't mean you can't participate in travel rewards. The Capital One Quicksilver Rewards Credit Card and the Chase Freedom Unlimited are both good starting points.

If You Less Than Good Credit

If you have a lower credit score, then check out the Capital One QuicksilverOne Cash Rewards Credit Card.

Pop Up Business School

Brad and Jonathan will be going to Alan Donegan's pop up business school in South Carolina. The event will be held in Charleston on February 17th to 29th. The school is completely free, but it is a two-week commitment. At the end of the two weeks, you will start your first business and make your first sale!

If you are interested, then find out more here.

The Four Tendencies

This week's episode was spurred on by a conversation with a reader who was curious to see which tendency is most common in the FI community. It was an eye-opening discussion about the tendencies of people around you.

While its useful to be able to identify characteristics in yourself, I certainly was able to see some pattern. I think Its actually more useful to see the tendencies in others and realize that when you are pursuing Financial Independence you have to get buy-in. You have to get buy-in. And the way that you present this information will have a significant impact on the success of that communication, the success of the buy-in.

Depending on the person and their tendency, you might be able to find buy-in through different approaches. For example, if your partner is a questioner, then they want to see all of the data that you can provide. However, if you are working with a rebel, then you need to wait for them to come to you.

Don't force yourself into a tendency, that's not how it works. Instead, use this knowledge to be more empathic to people around you.

If this topic interests you, then definitely check out the Four Tendencies book. Also, Pattern Language and Hot Spots are interesting reads for this concept.

Listen to the full episode with Gretchen Rubin here.

Financial Intimacy

Larry Hagner, from the Dad Edge podcast, joined the show to share his thoughts on financial intimacy.

Finances And Marriage

Half of all marriages end in divorce. 70% of those ended marriages are based on money problems. Unfortunately, money problems can be a major factor in any marriage.

Most people come into a marriage with money baggage and Larry was no exception. Based on a financially unstable childhood, he had a very difficult time spending money. It was stressful to manage the bills or spend money on anything based on his emotions surrounding money.

When Larry married Jessica, he took over the finances at first. For the first five years of their marriage, he handled all of the finances with a Ramsey mindset. It led to some stress in their marriage because he was constantly stressed about their financial situation. At some point, Jessica decided to take over the day to day bills so that Larry could let go of some that money stress. When Jessica took over the bills, Larry stuck his head in the sand about their financial situation and focused solely on investing for their future.

Money Meetings

Recently, Larry has started to work with Jessica as a team on their finances. Their strategy for working together is in the form of 30-minute weekly budget meetings where they discuss their finances of the week. At first, Larry brought stressful energy to these meetings. However, the meetings have been more productive with a less stressful point of view.

You have to bring a level of curiosity and appreciation to every conversation because the person that you are about ready to have this conversation with whatever they’re doing it makes total sense to them, why they’re doing it. So one of the worst things we can do is come in with a super maybe, and even if we don’t mean it that way, maybe we don’t have the intention of coming in defensive like guns blazing. But we’re just curious but we don’t know how to present ourselves as curious and we might come off aggressive.

Instead of asking why they are over budget in a category, ask for more about their point of view on the situation. For example, Larry struggles with the amount that they spend on groceries. Jessica has been able to share that the grocery bill is high due to a conscious choice to eat healthy foods. It is one of the many things that they work through together.

In 2020, they are adding to their money meeting by sharing their money situation with their kids. They want to teach their kids how to invest and build discipline for saving.

Hard Conversations

Opening up to your partner about money is a difficult conversation. However, financial intimacy can be a wonderful benefit from these hard conversations. Since finances are such a foundational element in a marriage, it is important to have these conversations regularly.

When you have a few different things. Trust, transparency. If you can come to every conversation with appreciation and curiosity and understand some rules when it comes to communication. Like not asking the question ‘why’, but instead replacing that with ‘hmm, tell me more.’ things like that that are going to keep that conversation on the offense and not on the defense.

If times are tough, you might bond by working through things together. Everything becomes more of a team effort. By making tough decisions together, you can bring more positive energy into the marriage.

How To Connect

If you'd like to connect with Larry's content, then check out The Good Dad Project or The Dad Edge podcast. If you are interested in joining a mastermind, then head over to the Alliance.

Announcements

We have some exciting news to share from our community.

Everyday Courage

Everyday Courage will soon be available as YouTube episodes.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wRztAjAtomY

FI 101

FI 101, the free course, is going live on January 25th. If you haven't signed up yet, please do that today!

The course will include the information you need to take action on Financial Independence. Plus, it will include some built-in calculators from On Trajectory to help you figure out where you stand.

Pensions

ChooseFI Publishing will soon be releasing a book with Grumpus Maximus about pensions. The book will cover everything you need to know about pensions in the context of FI.

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