In this episode of ChooseFI, co-host Brad sits down with Jordan Grumet, author of The Purpose Code, to discuss the crucial differences between "big P" purpose and "little p" purpose. They explore how identifying small, meaningful activities can bring joy and fulfillment to life. Jordan elaborates on turning regrets and childhood joys into "purpose anchors" and emphasizes actionable strategies to create a life filled with purpose through clarity, agency, and incremental changes.

Key Topics Discussed:

• Introduction to Jordan Grumet and The Purpose Code (00:00:00)

  • Brad introduces Jordan and discusses the significance of his upcoming book.

• Understanding Little P Purpose vs. Big P Purpose (00:01:43)

  • Big P purpose is goal-oriented and often feels like a scarcity mindset, whereas little p purpose is about engaging in activities that bring joy without the pressure of specific goals.

• The Role of Meaning in Happiness (00:03:28)

  • Discussing how happiness is derived from both meaning (derived from the past) and purpose (driving present actions).

• Identifying Purpose Anchors (00:17:02)

  • Jordan explains the importance of purpose anchors, small activities that light you up, and provides strategies to identify them.

• Practical Strategies for Creating Purpose (00:16:37)

  • Steps to create a meaningful life around little p purpose, emphasizing actionable changes.

Key Insights and Takeaways:

• Little P Purpose vs. Big P Purpose (00:01:50)

  • Little p purpose focuses on enjoyment and engagement rather than large achievements; every step counts.

• Creating Your Own Purpose (00:16:37)

  • "Purpose is not found; it's created." Focus on engagement in joyous activities.

• Life Review and Reflection (00:18:06)

  • Use regrets as insights to identify what truly matters to you.

• Engagement and Action (00:30:20)

  • The importance of scheduling time for activities that bring joy and fulfillment.

• Community and Connection (00:38:01)

  • Engaging in pursuits that light you up can lead to creating meaningful connections with others.

Actionable Items:

• Identify Your Purpose Anchors (00:17:32)

  • Reflect on activities that spark joy or interest and incorporate them into your routine.

• Reframe Past Regrets (00:18:30)

  • Utilize narrative therapy techniques to change your perspective on past experiences.

• Make a Weekly Joy List (00:36:06)

  • Create a list of activities that bring you happiness and prioritize them in your life.

Quotes:

• "You create your purpose, don't just find it." (00:16:37)
• "Little p purpose can create big impacts." (00:36:26)
• "To have a good death, live a good life." (00:35:17)
• "Choose to be in a good mood; it shapes your life." (00:06:00)

Related Resources:

• The Purpose Code: How to Unlock Meaning, Maximize Happiness, and Leave a Lasting Legacy by Jordan Grumet - Link to Book

Discussion Questions:

• What are your personal purpose anchors, and how do they light you up? (00:17:32)
• Reflect on a time when you pursued a big P purpose. How did it shape your view of fulfillment? (00:12:14)